HOW TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT FRIEND
The topic on friendship is one hot one, we are caught up in the drama, lies, decit and disappointment. However we are never taught how to choose the right friend we just go along with what the world has to offer. We end up in hate just because someone is not the right person for us in terms of friendship. I am not saying I am perfect but I have learnt a lot due to the fact that, half of my life I studied in boarding schools, so this has helped me know a little bit about friendship and people. “Friends” can be a tricky part in all aspects of life we don’t know when they will snap . However, I can tell you the signs to look out for when looking for a friend or you have a friend but you are still in doubt.
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- OPPOSITE HABITS
When choosing a friend look for habits opposite to yours . The worst thing that most people do is try to choose someone who is exactly just like you. This is not a good thing because you will tend to clash all the time. Choose someone who is some-how the complete opposite of you in terms of habits. This will help you learn and understand the person more na this person will help you understand were you are going wrong.
2. THEIR ACTIONS
When you have a friend try as much as possible to watch their actions around you and around other people. How they act and carry themselves around is a good way to determine this particular person. For example if you have a friend who is dodgy around you, trying to hide a lot of stuff then ask yourself why is this person not being transparent with me. And if you try to talk too them about it and they seem not to care , then back off and leave it will save you more than staying.
A person that does not respect their family elderly friends and people around them, do not expect them to respect you at all that will be an absolute joke. And like I always say when you see signs like this just know that is a ticking bomb just run away fast.
4. BACK TALKERS
When you go to see a friend a and they start talking about someone else who they call “friend” in their absence , then that is the worst sign for you and you should run fast . Because if they can talk about someone who they call friend I guarantee you they will do the same to you as well , because one they lack respect and two they have no shame at all.
Having similar values or the same values is one important thing because it helps the both of you to grow and become better people. if you two have different values you will end top clashing on a lot of things which will cause a lot of bad blood and therefore, avoid someone with no values .
6. COMMON GOALS
When choosing a friend, first determine that this person has the same goal as you, not exactly the same but least something to look out for in the future. Do not be afraid to ask this person what their aims and aspirations for the future are, in order to see if this person is going to help you grow or be that one friend that always putting you down.
You have to be able to learn something from the person that is your “potential friend”. If at one point you feel like you are not learning anything from this person then you pack your bags and go. Life is a journey along the way we see so many things and we must learn from them if we don’t, then that means it was not worth your time and learn from it and find what is better.
Someone that is all the time bringing some sort of bad news to you all the time is someone to watch out for. I am not saying you should be able to share your sorrows together but the out come should be happiness. They should be able to share both with you the good and the bad. If you feel your a problem solver in your friendship then consider being the solution giver which is “running away” faster the Usain Bolt..
9. TEST TRUST
Do not be afraid to test someones trust in your friendship, because at the end of the day this is the person you are going to trust with your secrets and if you feel you cannot trust them, then for sure do not be friends with them . Because your friend should be someone you are bale to trust.
Their people in this world who only bridge negativity and bad lack I personally call them the angles of doom. All you see is darkness and each time your with them bad things happen. All they do is call you when something is wrong and start to feed you with that negative energy, but they never try to uplift you or give you positive energy at all. If you have someone like this in your life then this person is not to keep and please excuse yourself and leave .
Always remember ” Less is a form of maturity and do not be afraid to be alone than being around friends that make you sad”.
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